The biggest irony is that the more you 'connect' through social media, video calls, and texting, the lonelier you feel at the same time. While we use technology to make us feel more connected, it can also be what makes us lonelier.

1. Be kind to yourself. In difficult times, kindness is very important. Blaming yourself when you're lonely doesn't help. So limit painful conversations, take care of yourself, and generally rest. A walk in nature or a day at the spa can make you feel better.

2. Use the present tense. If you feel good about something, immediately share it with others. By posting on social media, we don't mean 'share.' You can share it by calling or texting a friend. Or share it with the people you work with. Remember, the positives you can share don't have to be grandiose. You can lie on the right side of your bed and think, 'I feel good today.' By sharing these moments, you can create small joys and connections with others that will help you overcome loneliness.

3. Connect in real life. Connecting in real life may not be as easy as it used to be. We use our smartphones a lot. Easier and now culturally accepted. However, strengthening relationships can reduce loneliness. We do this by looking people in the eye, listening, paying attention, and choosing not to be distracted by our phones or other technology.

4. Think about how you spend your free time. When we feel lonely, sometimes we want to retreat into a corner and hide. Sometimes the endless to-do list makes me too tired to go out and socialize. But every night we can be alone if we pick up our phone and watch Netflix or play a game on Facebook. We have created a life that lacks meaningful social connections and the only way out is to live differently.

Instead, we can strengthen our relationships if we use our loneliness to help others. By choosing to combat loneliness by seeking social support, we can create more social moments with people in our lives who matter to us, which generally reduces our loneliness.

5. Do more with people. Personal social interaction improves mood and reduces depression. Activities that involve other people, such as going to church or playing sports, can also have a positive effect on your mental health. So find a way to get more people involved. 

6. Talk to strangers. Even seemingly insignificant interactions with strangers, such as talking to a barista or cashier, show that loneliness can be suppressed by creating a sense of social connection. So say hello to others, ask them how they're doing, or talk about whatever's on your mind. These small actions can make a big difference and help reduce loneliness.

7. Be active online. If you want to network instead of passively surfing the Internet or social media, you can choose to actively involve others. For example, you can play a game with other people, talk about something you're interested in, give advice on a forum, or have a video call with a friend. The more you interact with others online, the more connected you will feel.

8. Share online. In the process, the word 'share' on social media was used to describe 'humble praise.' We post about the awesome things we did, the good food we ate, and the fun parties we went to. These are things that we don't share with people who see our posts.

Instead of posting about something you've created, you can bring the word 'share' back to its original meaning. You can share tips, supportive messages, or upvotes from your smartphone. As a result, your relationship can be friendly and supportive.

9. Don't focus too much on yourself. In our technology-hungry modern society, we inevitably begin to think we lack them. Bob has a new car. Sherry has a new house. Sonya has a new job. And we see fake or fake images (photoshopped waists and model-perfect abs) and envy them. As a result, we focus more on how we don't measure. Instead of focusing on what you can get, focus on what you can give. You can raise goodwill funds by selling t-shirts online. You can ask a friend for a birthday donation. Giving to others allows you to focus on yourself and doing good, making you more connected and less alone. 

10. Stop the cycle of negative thoughts. We can often think about what we can do to avoid being alone. We worry about an event, person, or cause because we mistakenly believe that if we keep thinking about loneliness, it will be solved. Unfortunately, you don't have to cling to your thoughts instead of taking the necessary steps to feel better.

To stop this cycle of negative thoughts, you need to take action. We have to stop thinking and doing other things that change our experience of the world. For example, if I was alone, I would go to the gym or have lunch with friends every few days. And it helps.