I’ve turned the eHarmony profile question “The one thing I am most passionate about” into a Facebook wall, and it seems to be working in my favor as I have had a couple of people actually look at my profile and send me questions. (They are both in excess of 50 miles away, but at least it is traction). One of them looks to be a tall educator, and the other is younger than me at 44 and is a student, and I’m good with that. Camsoda review has gone to a timeline photo much like Facebook, so I could use a good horizontal glamor shot that doesn’t show my wrinkles. I put on a big pair of glamorous sunglasses for the moment. Maybe my male visitors will be awestruck by the blingy glasses and won’t notice that I am hiding behind them.

I’ve been wondering what it is about me that online guys don’t respond to. I wonder if it’s:

- I’m not thin enough. 

- I’m weighed in at a hefty 147 this morning, and no amount of dieting, yoga or running around the golf course seems to be helping. Maybe a woman’s metabolism really does slow down as she gets older. I’ve always thought that was a bunch of bunk, but maybe it is true after all. I did put in the dreaded “full body shot.” I hid my belly the best I could.

- I am not glamorous enough or fun enough.

It’s really hard to write a paragraph to tell someone that you are successful, lighthearted and generally fun to be around.

- I’m too old for dating at 46.

I think that 46 is exactly one year over the hill. 46 just sounds old. Things inevitably sag. If I was a man, I think 45 might be the cutoff. My 16-year-old son was also kind enough to inform me last week that I’d already been married once, and said: “Don’t you think that is enough?” Apparently, from the standpoint of a teenager, I should just acknowledge that my love life is over.

- Maybe most of the guys out there aren’t really looking for a girlfriend.

Really, what’s the worst thing that can happen to a 45-50-60-year-old divorced man? No regular sex, right? Enter the Internet. I know a man that says he sleeps with 80% of the chicks that he meets on eHarmony on the first date. It’s possible that he’s exaggerating and/or making it up. He’s not known for sticking too close to the truth, but I know that I’ve been hit on pretty hard by a lot of these guys, and most of them aren’t really interested in getting to know me intellectually. I must disclose that I’ve had this experience on other dating sites in addition to eHarmony btw. (OkCupid)

- I have three kids.

I think that this might be the actual reason that men don’t respond to my profile. Three kids sound like a nightmare. Sometimes, three kids are a nightmare. Mine are not usually. I have over-tamed them. They are like small 45-year-olds, but that sounds really odd when I write it down.

It’s a little tough to put an “I’M SO GREAT” spin on getting married, getting divorced with three little kids ages 11, 9 and 6 in the year of the worst recession of our lifetimes. I’d been a stay-at-home mom for 8 years too. There have been some tough times, and you certainly don’t write that in a profile. There is a positive spin really, however. I’ve been on an unexpected journey of self-discovery. I have found out what I’m made of. I’m blessed and lucky to have a good education and a persistent nature. My kids really are amazing, and I have bootstrapped it back to a fragile financial stability.

Life is good. Enough blogging...now off to the county fair with my bestie!