How I Found Happiness in an Unhappy World without Selling My Soul to Mainstream Society

We all want to experience joy, love, and abundance on a daily basis.

We all want to live the best life possible.

But very few of us actually know how to achieve the goal of lifelong happiness.

We are always thinking once we get this done or accomplish that goal… then we’ll be happy.

This was me:

Once I graduate high school then get into college then I’ll be happy…

Once I graduate college then get a job I’ll be happy…

Once I get this promotion then I’ll be happy…

Once I make enough to retire then I’ll be happy…

Once I get a date then I’ll be happy…

Once I get in a serious relationship then I’ll be happy…

This is what I see others saying:

Once I get married I’ll be happy…

Once I get a house then I’ll be happy…

Once I complete this mortgage I’ll be happy…

Once I have kids then I’ll be happy..

Once the kids graduate high school and are independent then I’ll be happy…

Then you’re dead.

But the question remains, did you truly live? Did you live a happy and fulfilled life or did you waste your time, spinning your wheels and constantly searching for happiness instead of realizing that you have the right and ability to be happy NOW?

I believe that happiness is a choice and you can create a state of happiness now, TODAY rather than postponing it for some future event that hasn’t occurred.

You are the jailor of the cell of your own happiness. But few of us realize that we’ve been holding the key all along.

So today, I want to share a simple system for achieving happiness now.

This isn’t another fluff filled article where I’m going to tell you to “Smile more” and “buy a dog”.

This is a hard-hitting fact-based guide that will reveal exactly how to optimize your life for true happiness.

What I’m about to share with you works.

I’ve used these same tactics to go from clinical depression to the life of my dreams and, if you’re willing to take action, you can use these tactics to live a life filled with joy and bliss.

Sound like something you might be interested in?

Then let’s dive in.

What is Happiness?

Before we talk about the core strategy and tactics that you can use to create a happy life, we need to start by defining what happiness is in the first place.

True happiness doesn’t mean that you will never be angry, sad, or frustrated.

Negative emotions are an inescapable part of life and even individuals like the great Tony Robbins aren’t immune to the occasional bad day.

True happiness, at its core, is simply about creating a life where your positive experiences and emotions outweigh the bad ones.

It’s about creating a life where you spend 90% of your time in a beautiful state and the other 10% facing and overcoming the challenges of everyday life.

You need to understand that you aren’t supposed to be happy all the time.

You need the negative emotions and difficult times to help you appreciate it when things are great.

However, by making a few small tweaks in your lifestyle and mindset, you can and will achieve a sense of overall happiness and abundance and enjoy life more than you ever thought possible.

Before We Get Started: Accept that Happiness is a Choice

I’m going to dive into all of the science and research behind what constitutes a happy life… But before I do, I want to make one thing abundantly clear.

Right now, at this very moment, you have everything that you need to be happy.

You have breath in your lungs, blood in your veins, and an internet connection (otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article) and that is all that you need.

I’ve traveled all over the country and some of the happiest people that I’ve ever met were homeless, recently divorced, and unemployed.

I’ve met men without a penny to their name who have so much happiness in their lives that you can’t help but smile when you are around them.

I’ve also met men who have everything: The beautiful wife, beachfront home, Italian sports car, and a bank account with 7 zeroes in it who are totally and utterly miserable.

Happiness isn’t something that you achieve. It’s not a goal to be had.

It’s a state that you have access to every second of every day. Happiness is a choice.

10,000 years ago our ancestors didn’t fret about the car that they drove or the clothes that they wore. They worried only about finding food, water, and shelter and making it through another day.

And I’d venture a guess that they were a helluva lot happier than 90% of the population today.

As a strong grounded man, you must accept the fact that YOU are in control of your state and your emotions in any given situation.

You can choose to look at all of the b.s. and adversity in your life and focus on everything that is wrong with where you are today.

Or you can be grateful for what you have and choose to live in a state of happiness and abundance.

It’s time to step up and take control of your life.

Stop giving your freedom and happiness away to other people. Your boss doesn’t dictate your happiness, your spouse doesn’t control your emotional states, and your bank account doesn’t determine the joy that you can feel right now.

Only you have the power to do that.

So choose happiness.

This choice will set you free.

The Four Factors that Make a Happy Life

To live a happy and well-lived life, you must focus on all of the components that make up your life, not just one or two.

A truly successful life requires a holistic and integrated approach to happiness and success.

After battling with depression and eventually building the life of my dreams, I’ve realized that almost everything that makes us humans happy can be put into one of four categories.


Wealth & Work


Personal Growth and Expansion

If you can get these four areas of life right, then you will experience more joy happiness and abundance than you know what to do with.

If you get them wrong, you are setting yourself up for a life of misery and monotony.

Over the course of this guide, I’ll be breaking down how you can optimize each category to optimize for a happy life.


Last updated:7/11/2019 2:43:16 AM
Charles Rojas

Charles Rojas

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